When browsing through your file system on Windows its normal to double click folders to understand what they may contain. This section is about having a similar approach when talking with others.
If someone says something to you in a conversation its because it may matter either to the person or to the conversation (or both).
By double clicking you will get a deeper insight into the conversation, helping you be engaged with the person and with the conversation - even if you are not, but perception will most likely be that you are. Getting a deeper insight will allow you to more easily extract the relevant data and/or help take more informed decisions, which can only be positive.
How it shaped my leadership
The more I had one-on-one’s with my IC’s the better I knew them, which helped me understand when some words were actually “keywords” and, thus, could be unfolded into a whole thread of conversation benefiting both.
So, sometimes, I would pick them subconsciously and use them to help me communicate better and go deeper into meaningful conversations.
When I learned about double clicking was when it got from unconscious into a conscious decision! Helped me pick up way more relevant data from my conversations.
This shaped not only my leadership but the way I talk with any other person.
Example
A: Even though I’m not proficient I moved to closer-to-the-metal languages as it allowed for better memory tracking issues.
Potential questions:
- B.1: What type of memory problems were you having?
- B.2: Was there a better approach that you could’ve taken?
- B.3: What makes you say you are not proficient?